The Art of Allowing

It’s been an interesting few days – but they almost didn’t happen!  

I finally gave up using Hotmail after 18 years after the version of Outlook provided ground to a stop and several times I couldn’t access my account.  I’d put in a ‘forward’ to another of my accounts, expecting everything to come through.  However, when I went to check my Hotmail, the spam folder was unusually full and some items hadn’t been forwarded.  Given that I had 465 items to go through, I wondered about simply emptying the whole lot.  However, I knew there were a few things I diverted there and occasionally viewed, so I started going through them.  On the third of four pages, I suddenly noticed a message from my author contact form:

Comment or enquiry: Would like to talk to you about your books. I am a radio talk show host on the Law of Attraction Radio Network.

Sometimes when I receive messages through my websites, it’s people simply wanting to increase my search ratings or offer some service I don’t require.  However, when I get something like the above, I go and check it out.  I arrived at Fulfilling Your Purpose and found the Law of Attraction Radio Network talk show page.  The first person I recognised was Jack Canfield (from “The Secret” film and author of “Chicken Soup for the Soul”)  which certainly added credibility.  I then replied to the host, Constance Arnold, and apologised for my late reply – since her initial contact had been made a week previous and I usually reply to people on the same day as receiving messages.

Constance Arnold

We arranged an initial Skype video chat and got on really well.  Constance informed me that she “has millions of regular listeners” and people who contact her requesting to go on her show – but in my case, she had simply come across my author site through her own searching and she liked what she found on ‘law of attraction’ – a topic her listeners are most interested in.

We talked for about 45 minutes and arranged to do a proper interview for the show this weekend – which could go out live either Sunday 21 or 28 July at 7:00 EST (4:00 PST – 12:00 GMT).

Interestingly, what I forgot to mention to Constance, was how ‘law of attraction’ had brought us together from my perspective.  As mentioned in a previous blog, I had spent the last 30 years of my life practising invisibility – not wanting to draw attention to myself in any way.  However, since developing my writing full-time, being invisible hasn’t helped people to find my books!  After almost a year’s effort in self-promotion, followed by some thoughtful consideration, I decided that conventional methods to regain visibility were falling short of expectation and when I really thought about it, I’d need a very expansive and potentially costly, marketing campaign to get anywhere near started!  At this point, I decided to hand over the task to the universe, along the lines of: 

“I need to stop being invisible; I need people to know I exist.  Please help me to attract the right people who will be interested in my books and help me to become more noticed.”

Following my own practice with ‘law of attraction’, I then removed myself from ‘interfering’ in the process or outcome, made a coffee and sat in the sun for a while.  Over the next days, I relaxed and let go of concerning myself with publicity and potential wealth generation, since I finally admitted the truth to myself:  

“Cold marketing is not something that comes naturally to you; you don’t have to be good at everything; and you don’t have to kill yourself with strenuous effort to “make” yourself good at something if it really doesn’t interest you!”